It can be hard to disentangle your lives after separation, especially when you have three kids, a house, mutual friends and family, savings, debt, and years and years of shared memories, but if those in Hollywood can manage it, then so can you. What we can learn from famous couples, is that separation can be a positive experience, an amicable experience, where instead of mourning the loss of one relationship, your excited about the prospects of a new relationship, a new friendship with your spouse.
So, what can we learn from the stars!
Orlando Bloom & Miranda Kerr
After their split in 2013, Bloom made it clear that their priority was their son. “We’re a family. We’re going to be in each other’s lives for the rest of our lives”, he said.
“There’s no question that, you know, for the sake of our son and everything else, we’re going to support one another and love each other as parents to Flynn.”
Reese Witherspoon & Ryan Phillippe
Phillippe told Ellen DeGeneres in 2010 that he and his ex-wife are dedicated to being co-parents despite their split in 2007.
“It is so important as divorced parents to keep that connection. It makes the kids feel better that the parents are interacting,” he said. “We go to all the school events together, and we’re there for each other.”
Kate Winslet & Sam Mendes
After their 2010 split, the pair released a statement talking about their intention to stay friends for the sake of their kids.
“The split is entirely amicable and is by mutual agreement. Both parties are fully committed to the future joint parenting of their children,” the statement read.
Courteney Cox & David Arquette
Their divorce was official in 2012, but the couple will always be good friends. “We just really dealt with it in a very sweet and honorable way,” Arquette said of the split.
“We just love each other. Even though the relationship didn’t work out, we wanted to still remain friends and treat each other with respect and have a great relationship for our daughter.”
It’s clear that these couples focused on preserving their friendship or co-parenting relationship, for the sake of their children. While divorce isn’t always ‘conflict-free’, there is a right way and a wrong way to work through the complexities of a family separating.
At Resolve Divorce, we take a goals orientated, interests based approach to assisting our clients negotiate their parenting arrangements and property settlement. By working in a round table, cooperative environment, parties can identify their mutual goals, interests and concerns and work toward equally beneficial outcomes. By choosing the right lawyer, and the right forum to amicably negotiate the complexities of their family law matter, our client’s achieve outcomes similar to the celebrities that we are seeking to learn from – outcomes where they are able to preserve their parenting relationship for the benefit of their children.