16 Jun How we prepare you for the Business of Divorce
The “business” part of divorce can be emotionally and financially challenging. While it is important to get tailored legal advice, it is equally important that you are in the right mindset and ready to embark on the journey of good decision making.
Usually, lawyers focus on speaking with their clients about the process and their legal advice, but what they don’t talk about is how you can prepare, mentally, for the process, ensuring that you are ready to make important, life changing decisions. That’s where Resolve Divorce is different.
We wanted to share our top tips for clients in preparing for the “business” end of divorce.
Tip 1: Identifying your goals
One of the most effective decision-making strategies is to keep an eye on your goals. This simply means identifying the purpose of your decision by asking yourself what exactly is the problem that needs to be solved, and why does that problem need to be solved.
Figuring out what is important to you will help you make good decisions along the way.
Decisions that they do not regret, and decisions that are durable. When you know the reason why you have made a particular decision, you will feel more satisfied with the outcome.
Check out our recent blog post of goal setting here.
Tip 2: Taking responsibility and building your community
Divorce can be overwhelming, and it can be tempting to avoid facing their future and be a passive observer of your own divorce. At Resolve we encourage you to take responsibility. It is your divorce, and you need to take control of it. The best way for you to get through a divorce, is to take an active role in the process.
It is also important for us that you do not feel alone. There are a variety of sources of divorce support (including divorce coaches) who can help you sort through the menagerie of feelings and learn how to deal with them in a healthy and constructive way. Building your community in the preparation stage of your divorce is crucial to achieving your goals.
Tip 3: Focus on the big picture
We often tell our clients to prepare themselves for change and focus on the future.
The decisions you make during the divorce process will affect you and your children for years to come.
At Resolve we encourage you to focus on the future, and not get bogged down in fighting over semantics or trying to prove they you are right, or your spouse is wrong.
Unfortunately, nobody wins in divorce, but if you focus on what is important, for example, your children and protecting their financial future, instead of the painful past, then you will have a much better chance of not only divorcing amicably, but achieving a mutually beneficial, durable outcome.
Integral to preparing for divorce, is how you respond to and deals with conflict. We always ensure that you are supported emotionally and understand strategies in dealing with conflict, before commencing in any negotiation process.
Tip 4: Gather information for weighing up your options against your goals
When making good decisions in divorce, it is important that you have all the necessary information to generate ideas for a possible solution.
We often assist our clients by developing an array of options, even ones that may initially sound silly or unrealistic. This will help to narrow the option that best suits you and most importantly, aligns with their goals.
If you want to understand more about what we do and how we can help you at Resolve, call us for a free 15 minute chat.
Written by Chanel Martin Senior Solicitor at Resolve Divorce